I hold no cherished outcome.
“The root cause of most difficulties in relationships is the fact that we want something from another. We imagine that we need the other person to be a certain way. Why? Perhaps so that we ourselves will then feel a certain way – safe, supported, happy. When we don’t get what we want, when other people don’t act the way we wish they would, relationship difficulties begin. We then view these difficulties as impediments to happiness, even obstacles on our spiritual path. But these difficulties – especially in relationships – are themselves our path. While we might prefer that a person be a particular way, it is our misguided requirement that they be this way that stops real love from flowing. By giving up our requirements of others, we open to the love that already connects us.”
Practice seeing everyone as perfect. Make a commitment to purposely move into acceptance in the midst of every circumstance you experience today. Choose to allow each person in your life to be as they are without creating anxiety for yourself. Notice when the ego prompts you to vent or complain about someones behavior – this is the moment to practice acceptance.
Imagine how your life would flow without attachment to outcomes, frustration or desire. All the mental energy normally expended trying to understand motivations, anticipate responses or trying to manage expectations can now be utilized experiencing the present moment as it is.
Expectations are built in to the human condition. They can be obvious or subtle but always, they cause unhappiness. As you break free from this mental conditioning, you’ll create greater peace, grace and ease in your life experience. And that, is inner mastery.