Reactivity and resistance are pretty good indicators that we have work to do.
“Resistance is a conditioned response of the ego; it’s the ego’s effort to maintain control, the ego’s fear of giving up the known. Often our resistance prevents us from staying in the present moment for more than a few seconds. We resist because we want to avoid feeling the underlying jangle of our actual experience. We move away from discomfort into the false comfort of our thoughts. But no matter what form it takes, resistance brings no peace; we strengthen whatever we resist. By resisting something we solidify it, empowering it to stay in our life.” ~Ezra Bayda~
One way to diminish the ego is to purposely refrain from defensive posturing. If someone criticizes or blames you, notice the ego’s desire to immediately react or defend and instead, choose to be silent and observe what is happening within you. Initially, this may feel very uncomfortable; however, if you are able to stay present you’ll discover a spaciousness around the situation.
Now that you’ve created space instead of reactivity, you may notice a greater ability to be neutral or compassionate. Without ego interference, the soul expands in ways that we may not expect and the situation becomes a portal to another dimension of your awakening.
Fear that arises out of reactivity is a product of the ego. The ego fears a rise in consciousness and of course prefers to maintain it’s hold on your experience. These ‘little deaths’ of the ego are a necessary aspect of our development. What would your life look like without fear, resistance, reactivity or struggle?