Finding Gratitude in Grief

“In some ways, [gratitude] makes [grief] more profound, because it allows you to look at it. It allows you to examine your grief in a way that it is not, like, holding up red hot ember in your hands, but rather seeing that pain as something that can warm you and light your knowledge of what other people might be going through.”

~Stephen Colbert”

Compassion is learned through experience. In Presence, we can create space around emotions that arise and transform our wounds into empowerment. Challenges help us to discover facets of insight and awareness that are ready to shine. When you can turn toward your grief and embrace it, it becomes a powerful aspect of your awakening.

Our history does not define us, but it does inform us. Rather than thinking the challenge shouldn’t have occurred, or believing the “if only” created by the mind, see everything as part of the perfect unfoldment of your life, the exemplary movement of love and loss, lessons and values that can only come through depth of emotion.

Our shared humanity is the key to spiritual awakening. We all walk the same journey and we can find joy in walking one another home.


“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”
Many people resist change; however, growth is one of the great blessings of life. As we transition from one phase to the next we expand our experience. If you have mastered some aspect of your life, consider starting something new. The old way of being will benefit as well.
Loss is a powerful realm of self-exploration. Losing someone you love and enjoy in your life can create a sense of despair; however, it’s important to remember that this physical experience is temporary and fleeting. The soul connection continues throughout myriad settings and incarnations. Those you have loved will often choose to act as spirit guides until you gather again to plan the next adventure.
Change creates space in which something new can emerge. As you age, instead of resisting, consider embracing the aging process. There are many lifetimes where we do not have the opportunity to enjoy the wisdom age can bring, the acceptance that comes from new limitations or the quietness of being. We enter a unique vibration of wisdom at age 54. Ages 54-81 are considered a time of introspection where we ponder death and the immortality of the soul as we build a bridge between the physical and the Oneness that connects us.

Learning Through Loss

“Though your days here were brief
Your spirit was alive, awake, complete.
Let us not look for you only in memory,
Where we would grow lonely without you.
You would want us to find you in presence,
Beside us when beauty brightens,
When kindness glows
And music echoes eternal tones.”
~John O’Donohue~
Loss is part of life. Where we once had the opportunity to discover who we are in the presence of another, at some point we must also discover who we are in their absence.
We unexpectedly lost our kitty Mr. Monster yesterday. And while never an experience one would consciously or purposely choose, I know that is it perfect and that he will come around again in another form.
Everything plays a role in our awakening. Challenges can bring unexpected kindnesses and compassion and even now, my heart is filled with gratitude for all the love and friendship in my life.
Any loss provides an opportunity to cultivate the art of acceptance. Whether the ending comes through death, divorce, life paths diverging, work or relationships reaching the end of shared experience, the process is the same. We can focus on the blessings or the loss – the choice is ours.