Creating space

There is nothing more beautiful than allowing someone the space to awaken. When those around us attempt to draw us into some type of conflict or drama, we have the opportunity to observe our own defensiveness, views or opinions and can use this awareness as part of our spiritual growth.

The act of observation creates a space in which transformation can occur – both within ourselves and in others. Accusations, defense, the need to be right, criticizing and blaming are all designed to strengthen the ego, and as we learn the art of non-reaction, the ego has no energy to feed upon.

It takes practice, but there is great power to be accessed in loving, non judgmental silence. When we make the choice to be neutral – allowing the other person to have a differing opinion or to process through a negative outburst at their own pace, we set ourselves free from identification with the ego.

If you need to say \”No\” or take action, it will come from a place of consciousness instead of reactivity, and you will feel at ease within the present moment.

See if you can catch yourself complaining in either speech or thought, about a situation you find yourself in, what other people do or say, your surroundings, your life situation, even the weather. To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.

— Eckhart Tolle