Those who challenge you the most on the physical plane love you the most on the spiritual plane.
“[Divine], make me an instrument of your peace.~St Frances of Assisi~
While there is hatred, let me sow love. While there is injury, let me sow pardon. Where there is doubt, let me sow faith. Where there is despair, let me sow hope. Where there is darkness, let me sow light. Where is sadness, let me sow joy. Oh Divine, grant that I may not so much seek To be consoled as to console, To be understood as to understand, To be loved as to love. For it is in giving that we receive. It is in pardoning that we are pardoned.”
The quickest way through any challenge is to utilize the contrasts. As you observe the ego clamoring to take action, choose to slow down and breathe and consciously do the opposite. When we feel compelled again and again to have our say, to voice an opinion, to point out others’ shortcomings, there’s more power in being silent.
Your energy determine how much you get out of this exercise. If your silence contains anger, then it is harming you and not balancing the situation. When anger arises, observe it, and ask how you can bring love to the present moment. As you enter a state of compassion, your silence has meaning and purpose.
There is an ebb and flow to all relationships. They serve a vital purpose in our awakening and it can be helpful to remember that we are all doing the best we can based upon our level of consciousness, imprints, and life experiences.