All judgment leads to conflict and separation. It begins with an ego-generated story about what should have been or what should be, when, in actuality, everything simply is what it is. The more attached you are to the story, the further away from love you are drawn. We truly disappear down the rabbit hole when judging someone else for being judgmental.
With this in mind, consider the flow of your current relationships. Rather than wasting energy in judgment, remove yourself from toxic people or purposely choose to move into acceptance. Acceptance, by contrast, is completely transformative. When you accept someone exactly as they are without a desire to change them, there is nothing for their ego to fight against. This sets the stage for growth.
Operating at the level of acceptance is empowering. It creates a free flow of experience that it not attached to outcomes. Choices can be made based upon what is appropriate for your journey. Rather than getting bogged down by karmic cording, our interactions become love based and authentic.
Utilize any shadows that arise as springboards to enlightenment. You can consciously transform your challenges into profound spiritual insight and wisdom. Allow love to expand your viewpoints.