Pay attention to the inner talk that begins when someone else is speaking. Make a conscious decision to bring yourself fully present, alert, non-judgmental and simply listen with all your being. Slow things down. When the person has finished their idea, you can then proceed with a greater understanding. This simple process can save you a great deal of pain.
It’s important to consistently remind yourself that you are processing life through a filter and that it may not be 100% accurate. If you have had misunderstandings, let people know that you understand your reactions stemmed from a wrong perception (rather than attacking them or asking them to change or apologize). When we allow someone else to provide additional insight, we cultivate a deeper connection and understanding. Most likely, you’ll discover that they, too, have been trapped by incorrect perceptions.
Bring love to the present moment by being a compassionate listener and someone who speaks with kindness. There is nothing to lose except unnecessary pain.
Today my intention is to be a loving reflection of the Divine. There is always something new to discover.