We all have preferences. We may prefer sunshine to rain, to experience kindness rather than criticism, and circumstances that unfold according to our carefully imagined plans. Our preferences help us navigate the world, make choices, and create lives that reflect our passions and joy. Yet somewhere along the way, we may begin to believe that life must cooperate with those preferences in order for us to be happy.
Consider how often our peace depends upon something outside ourselves. Someone needs to behave differently, a situation needs to resolve itself, or an anticipated outcome needs to materialize before we can finally relax. Without realizing it, we’ve handed the keys to our happiness over to outside circumstances over which we have little control.
Consciousness invites us to recognize the difference between preference and attachment. We can desire something wholeheartedly, work toward it with passion, and remain open to the possibility that life has something unexpected in store. This willingness to allow creates space for possibilities we might never have imagined.
The practice begins with awareness. When disappointment arises, we can use it as a barometer to measure our level of attachment. The greater the disappointment, the greater the attachment.
I believe that one of the greatest freedoms we can experience is the ability to say, “This is what I would love,” while trusting ourselves to meet whatever life brings.
✨Blessing✨
May you hold your desires gently, with an open heart.
May you find peace in what is, while welcoming what may be.
And may you discover the freedom that comes from allowing life to unfold.