Healthy Relationships

Acceptance is an act of love.

“The spiritual practice of relationships is about working on ourselves only, freeing ourselves from the constricting grip of our own unhappiness. It is not the other person’s job to take our unhappiness away; our discomfort is our own responsibility. Attending to our spiritual tasks – seeing our judgments, opinions, beliefs, demands, and staying present with the fears out of which they all arise – frees others to move toward us. Then, when they no longer feel the need to defend, they become more willing to take care of their job. Thus joy in relationships becomes possible.”                          ~Ezra Bayda~

Every relationship in your life, no matter how fleeting, provides an opportunity to practice loving, healthy interactions. The more proficient you become, the more peace you experience in your day-to-day life. When others become lost in the grip of ego, your balance and equanimity can transform even the most challenging of situations into spatial awareness.

How would your experiences change if you were not subject to disappointment? What would it take to simply allow those who grace your life to grow at their own pace while offering acceptance, love and support for their journey? These states of higher consciousness are more easily accessed when you are free of expectation.

Encircle the world with your love. Small, consistent kindnesses can spark the light of consciousness to awaken. Everyone and everything is our teacher.

Patience

You will encounter moments of tremendous insight and growth interspersed with moments of disruption and confusion. Be patient with the process of your awakening.

“Expecting an epiphany – some single moment of insight that will forever banish the experience of fear, anger, neediness – may prevent us from noticing the slow and almost imperceptible ways spiritual practice subtly transforms us. With patience and perseverance, our habitual reactive patterns slowly erode, until one day we find ourselves in a situation that had always made us anxious – and we notice the anxiety is simply gone.”
~Ezra Bayda~

Impatience is a tremendous barrier on the road of transformation. We must retrain ourselves to slow down and be a loving witness to the illumination of the spirit. Practice seeing beyond the roles that people play with the understanding that love is the bridge that connects us.

Let nature teach you her ways. Observe her persistence and resilience as the seasons change. Trees exist in perpetual grace, beginning as the tiniest of seeds and eventually reaching toward the sky. Flowers bloom and die, sharing their beauty, scent and promise of new life.

Your journey of awakening is the same. It has taken lifetimes for you to reach this moment, and no matter how far you have come, you have barely scratched the surface of the true meaning of infinite possibility. Give yourself time to explore, to feel, to experience. Immerse yourself within the present moment and be open to receive the love, light and laughter of the universe.

Being Present with Emotion

Our varied responses to life and to one another can be used as vehicles of awakening.
“Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.”
~Eckhart Tolle~

Whatever happens in your experience is precisely what is needed for the next steps of your spiritual growth. The highs and lows of life awaken deeper aspects of your inner wisdom. When you can be fully present within the circumstances of your life situation and consciously reside in the energy which unfolds, you will be able to face the shadows and emerge strengthened.

Moment of challenge are absolutely required in order to bring limiting beliefs to the surface. In those moments, utilize conscious breath to clear the mind and simply observe what is. The light of your conscious awareness transforms all that it shines upon and awareness is the first step of change.

The more aware you become of habitual patterns, limiting thoughts and reactivity, the less control these things will have in your experience. Initially they may seem overwhelming; however, as your spiritual journey progresses, you’ll process through them more and more quickly until you find that you have set yourself free.

Faith

Walk forward. The way will make itself known to you.

“The only way to live is by accepting each minute as an unrepeatable miracle.”
~Jack Kornfield~

The mechanisms of the ego can leave us paralyzed. As the mind grapples with the fear of the unknown, the soul desires to awaken. Often, we must choose to take a step into the void knowing that any movement is more desirable than being stuck in a repetitive pattern.

Trust the processes of your awakening. Every moment offers an opportunity to expand or to learn something new. Faith is cultivated by our willingness to take risks. When “what ifs” arise, observe them and move forward anyway. When we can approach life with wonder and amusement and take ourselves a little less seriously, we create a space in which a transformation can occur.

Acceptance

Honor all paths as sacred.

“Truly healing suffering requires experiencing in your very cells, the distress that arises when you hold to your requirements that life be other than it is.”
~Ezra Bayda~

Acceptance, when engaged mindfully and authentically, is a powerful tool of transformation. Saying yes to life unlocks the prisons of perception and sets us free to experience life as it is without limiting mental interference.

The journey of awakening is unique for each of us. Imagine what we can learn from one another through the sharing of our varied experiences, insights and love without judgment. Honor each path as sacred. See everyone as your teacher and your life will be enriched beyond measure.

We are lifetime students of love. The contrasts and paradoxes of human experience teach us of the infinite ways that we can enter into the love that is the true nature of our being.

Be The Change

As you change, the world around you is transformed.

“Life is an adventure. Invite constant adventures, and whenever a call comes from the unknown, listen to it. Risk all and go into the unknown, because this is the only way to live at the maximum.”

~Osho~

As an old soul, you view life differently and walk a unique path of experience. Many old souls go through a period of struggle because they do not fit in. This is a purposeful aspect of higher levels of consciousness. Embrace it!

We are here to assist in the transformation of the planet. You have chosen to be here now for a specific purpose and, until you discover your path, simply live in accordance with love. The truth will make itself known in the perfect way at the perfect time.

Each life you touch sends waves of energy outward in all directions. This interconnectedness becomes more apparent as the coincidences and synchronicities merge around you. Know that you are guided, loved and supported each and every step of the way.

Millions of possibilities await discovery. Everything is divine. Seek with an open heart and mind and choose to enjoy the journey of discovery.

Peace Comes From Within

Don’t wait for life to fall into place before you choose to feel peaceful, balanced and fulfilled.

“You find peace not be rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level.”   
~Eckhart Tolle~  

The mind will have you believe that certain goals must be obtained, challenging situations overcome or those around you must be joyful before you can relax into a life that is peaceful and contented. As awakening students of love, we understand that our challenges prompt us to turn inward in order to discover the peacefulness that is already within us.

Be grateful for the moments of chaos that disrupt your life situation. They are meant to help you to cultivate the Art of Presence. When you can walk in the midst of turmoil yet remain calm and aware of your state of consciousness, you become a powerful co-creator within your own experience.

Nothing is more important than your state of mind in this moment. Observe what is, breathe, accept and act (when necessary) from a place of inner stillness. Rather than being reactive or feeling lost in a storm of upheaval, you’ll choose mindful responses that transform moments of intensity into what they are meant to be – vehicles of awakening.

You Make a Difference

You are an evolving, living, vibrant expression of Love in human form.
“You are far from the end of your journey. The way is not in the sky. The way is in the heart. See how you love.”    
~Buddha~  

You have a profound impact on the world around you. Your light illuminates the darkness. Your gentleness plants seeds of transformation. Your grace teaches those whose lives you touch – even when you cannot yet see the end results of your efforts.

Know that you are right where you need to be. Yes, there will be times when you feel depleted or unappreciated. Tend to your own state of consciousness and well-being first, then you will have the ability to access the purest aspects of all you have to offer. It’s important to live authentically and act without expectation. This will open you to receive all the energy that you need to proceed. Your Presence awakens the Presence within others.

Contrast

Contrasts allow us to explore the infinite facets of experience.

“You are a great problem creator… just understand this and suddenly problems disappear. You are perfectly in shape; you are born perfect, that is the whole message. You are born perfect, perfection is your innermost nature. You have just to live it. Decide and live it.”    
~Osho~

Consider this: you are here to experience all that life has to offer. Good, bad, easy, challenging, fulfilling, depleting… everything has something of value to teach. The conscious exploration of various facets of your personal journey creates something that is wholly unique.

Celebrate your existence. Honor those who grace your path by being your authentic self. Let joy and friendship guide your heart, even through the darkest nights of ruthless self-observation and growth. You are always loved, supported and guided throughout the process of awakening. Through experience we learn compassion for ourselves and for others.

This is the moment of transformation. How will you choose to experience it?

The Transformative Power of Gratitude

Be willing to see the perfection in the imperfection.

“When we focus on our gratitude, the tide of disappointment goes out and the tide of love rushes in.”    
~Kristin Armstrong~ 

One of the most powerful tools of transformation and self-awareness is gratitude. When we choose to be thankful for all that unfolds in our experience, we demonstrate willingness to take personal responsibility for our state of consciousness in the present moment.

In the midst of a challenge, purposely choose to pause and create a moment of stillness. Step into empowerment by saying something like, “I am grateful for my anger/frustration/emotional reactivity… this situation is meant to help me heal and grow and even though I may not be able to see clearly just yet, I know it has great value for me.” The act of utilizing gratitude immediately begins to transform the energy.

Conversely, it’s equally important to remember that expressing gratitude when things are flowing well amplifies our awareness of the blessings that constantly surround us and draws in even more for which we can be grateful.